TALL, DARK, AND HANDSOME
I never realized that I was a romantic, but I am. I want my Love Story. I want to ride off into the sunset with my Tall, Dark, and Handsome man (*sigh)...or do I?
What is it about a Tall, Dark, and Handsome man that we find so irresistible, so tempting? Is it his calculative stare that watches our every move, like a predator on the hunt? Is it his rugged, brown skin that feels like buttered leather under our fingertips? Perhaps it is his smooth, velvety voice that calms our Spirit, yet ignites our Soul, as the truth and lies become harder to separate. You can feel it, the mistruths, in his thoughtful words, his gentlemanly actions. You can see it in his piercing eyes. Our eyes focus on his handsome face, and we quickly fall into a trance that penetrates the Soul, enveloping us in an intoxicating web that keeps us tethered to him, no matter what he does or what he says. All it takes is a moment of kindness and passion, and all is forgiven. The betrayal is forgotten and we quickly sink back into that feeling that everything is going to be alright… it's going to be alright, isn't it?
As a Healer, it has become clear to me over time that the "darkness" that we crave is so much more than what can be observed on the exterior surface of these men. I feel this energy flowing through so many of us. We are drawn to that brokenness, the darkness that dwells beneath the surface that needs healing...a woman's touch. That darkness is the "Bad Boy" that draws everyone in. Untempered. Untamed. Wild-eyed and a wild ride.
If you are able to capture the attention of Mr. Tall, Dark, and Handsome long enough to stare into the depths of those dangerous Bad Boy eyes, you might find a tender, gentle, and loving, young boy staring back at you— terrified of love, hungry for nurturing and fearful of abandonment. This is what we long for, the opportunity to be the One to come in and save his vulnerable inner child.
Most of us can feel that hunger to heal others, and we have that desire to save a Soul in distress, especially one who melts your heart and lights you up. This Light that flows through us is an important part of our being. It is our truth that, of course, we would pour ourselves into another human being, especially one that appears to be so Tall, Dark, and Handsome, yet so sensitive and needing of our Love and Light. How could we possibly see the Light through the dark cloud of lies that we so badly want to believe? How can we possibly see the endless field of red flags cautioning us to turn around and go home, when our eyes are stinging and swollen from endless hours of torment, our Spirit slowly dying inside, knowing that the end is closing in on us. It is suffocating.
I reckon every Love Story has to have an ending, but does it have to be an Unhappy Ending? We never want those passionate moments to be anything less than what they truly were...Heavenly. The truth is simple. Half of those magical moments belong to us. There is no pleasure without pain. There is no reward without the risk. As a Healer, I know there is no truth in Fear and there is no healing in lack of accountability. As a Human, I know that many will choose to latch on to the pain and label Mr. Tall, Dark, and Handsome as a Narcissist. As for me, I will be honest with myself and call it what it is..."My Favorite Mistake."
- Janet